Givers can succeed! Just read Give and Take by Adam Grant, an organizational psychology book about the differences between the reciprocity styles of the giver, matcher, and taker. Grant argues that the giver's reciprocity style actually achieves the greatest success. As a teacher, mentor, and guide, I strive to be an otherish giver concerned for both my own interest and for my students' interests. Selfless self-sacrifice would just burn me out or overwhelm me. And acting like a selfish taker simply isn't an option!